I am a veteran. I
state that not in looking for reward or praise, but as a statement of fact. I didn’t join the Army in 1983 for either. Nor did my time in service make me a hero. I definitely didn’t join the Army to become a
hero to anyone. To be honest it was almost
10 years after I got out of the Army that I ever even went to a Veterans Day
celebration, and even then it was only because my son asked me to attend one at
school.
Like most veterans from my time, I never had to see
war. I was fortunate. Men and women before and after me have not
been so fortunate. To me, even today,
Veteran Day is more for those men and women than myself. I think you’ll find a majority of veterans
aren’t looking for anything. The thank-yous
are nice, but I’ve never asked for one, nor have I ever expected one. And if you want to know the truth, I’m a bit
uncomfortable with them sometimes. There
are many veterans so much more deserving that I am of those thank-yous.
I think I am in the majority of veterans. Most veterans I know are more comfortable
talking about being a veteran with someone who is a veteran because we
understand it’s not about anyone being better than anyone else. We are no more deserving of anything over
anyone else. Amongst ourselves you don’t
hear thank-you or you’re a hero or anything else, and I think as a group we are
more comfortable just being another one of the guys.
To be honest the Army has already paid me back many times
over for my service. My continued learning
of life skills like respect, honesty, trustworthiness, discipline, and managing
people are all things that were reinforced and refined in the Army. And while my job in the military of breaking
codes didn’t translate very well into the civilian world, I did find out that I
had a talent for computers that I later followed and is my career today. It gave me 8 years to decide what I wanted to
do for the rest of my life, all the time knowing I’d have a paycheck and roof
over my head and 3 meals a day in my belly.
When I was 18 I was overwhelmed with the prospect of going out into the ‘adult
world’, and the Army gave me a productive purpose while I worked through those
things.
Between my parents and the Army I’ve seen more of the world
than I bet 1 in 10,000 have. Not only
did my parents get me through all 50 states, but the Army got me through or
allowed me to go through a couple of dozen countries (though I’d like to have
not been in one or two of them).
Don’t get me wrong, I knew very well what I was signing up
for. I understood, and was reminded time
and time again of the possibilities. There
were risk with the rewards, and that was always clearly understood and accepted
by me, and everyone else who ever signed into the military. I have heard gun shots in my direction from
people who wanted to kill us. And I’ve
missed life events that all I ever got to see were the pictures afterwards
because the Army had other plans then I did, sometimes at the very last minute
after plane tickets were purchased. And
even with all that I signed on the dotted line not once, but twice.
So what do I want through all this? Nothing. Honestly nothing. Again, I never joined the Army expecting anything
when I got out other than the promises Uncle Sam made to me if I provided
honorable service.
I have learned to graciously accept the thank-yous and other
talk after 25 years, much like when someone gives you a present that you didn’t
ask for nor do you really want. I’ve
even learned to be appreciative when the school or VFW or someone else wants to
recognize veterans for their service, though I’m much more comfortable giving
that recognition than receiving it.
I do believe our schools need to teach our children about
what Veterans Day stands for, something I’m blessed that our school does a fine
job of doing. But I also think they need
to teach what Memorial Day, Labor Day, Flag Day, Presidents Day and many other
days stand for, and not that they are just days off from work or school, or a
day to drink beer and BBQ.
If you really want to thank a veteran, then live up to the
potential you were meant to. Do your
civic duties like jury duty and responsible voting. Be a good citizen. Honestly you’d be thanking every veteran more
by doing those type of things than anything else you could do ever say to us.
God Bless,
Dennis Nesser
Veteran US Army
Dennis Nesser
Veteran US Army